Why You Should Not Hurry To Say “I Love You”?

We often dive into a new relationship full of hopes, thinking, “well, this time, it is definitely love.” But take your time, don’t rush into these feelings, give yourself time to create more profound affection for the person, and get used to seeing through your pink glasses. Still not sure this is a good idea? Here are five reasons you should not hurry to say ‘I love you.’

True love takes time  

It’s easy to confuse proximity with love when we become emotionally attached to someone. You can feel your hand in their hand, be near them, and enjoy being with them, but this is not the same as having genuine feelings for a real person.

True love is a deep sense of acceptance of one another person when you can be yourself without pretending to be someone else and without wishing to change your partner in accordance with your ideals and principles. True love is not just desire, passion, and most definitely, not reliance. It rarely occurs at first glance, and it usually takes time—probably not days or weeks—to discover whether you are two sides of one whole. Even if you’re anxious to share those priceless words with a close friend, spend some more time reflecting on what they truly mean to you.

Recognition will not strengthen the commitment 

Disagreements arise in all relationships, even the most ideal ones. The words “I love you” were not created to reestablish understanding, no matter how badly we want to go from icy alienation to warm feelings immediately. Also, don’t try to use them to sway someone to stay with you. Confession cannot save relationships, mistakes cannot be fixed, or trust earned. Mainly if the most important words are first spoken in a dire circumstance, showing desperation or excuses rather than genuine feelings, it is not superglue, it is not a spell, it is not a hidden weapon.

It really matters at the right time  

Sometimes we experience such a surge of emotions that it leaves us gasping for air, and the affirmation unconsciously escapes our lips. For example, during a boat ride on an Italian lake (where you are so stunning in a dress and holding a bouquet) and during a passionate moment of love, a breakout of emotions has the power to freeze you. It is the key: wait until you know intuitively that this is the right moment if you want the “I love you” moment to be memorable in your life.

You can regret what was said  

Keep in mind that everything you say is not easy to take back, especially when it comes to feelings. Make sure you confess because you genuinely feel it, not because they are so good (attractive, wealthy, or promising) or because you need romance. Anything uttered without having sincere and truthful intentions has the potential to cause regret. It’s hard to take back the words “I love you.”

Love is different for everyone  

It’s okay if each half of your couple has a distinct understanding of love. However, you must be aware of how closely your interpretation matches your lover’s before you declare your love for them. Let the boyfriend’s or girlfriend’s emotions develop at their own pace rather than trying to stimulate and prompt reciprocity; otherwise, you risk scaring the feelings (if they mature more slowly than yours).

Does it make sense to discuss what has been experienced in the past and what is important now: care, safety, stability, heaven in the smoke, and the best future if both of you have had relationship experience? Then, before making any declarations of love, you should be able to perceive the scenario from their perspective after thoroughly understanding each other’s past struggles and feelings.