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10 Signs That You Are a Sapiosexual

While most individuals believe that intelligence is only somewhat helpful in catching other people’s attention, those who identify as sapiosexuals believe that intelligence is the foundation of sex and emotional connection.

For them, intelligence is not simply a nice extra; it is a requirement. A sapiosexual finds intellectual people to be both sexually and psychologically appealing. The idea of intelligence excites them.

Sapiens (meaning intellectual) and sexual are the Latin roots of the word “sapiosexual”. So when dating app Tinder and dating site OkCupid both included the term “sapiosexual” in their “Orientation” profiles in 2014, this word gained popularity.

But you must realize that if you only admire those who are witty and have a command of the classics, you cannot count yourself among them. Ten indicators that you are sapiosexual are listed below.

  1. Mind and intellectual conversations inspire and excite you 

The majority of people enjoy talking, but you choose meaningful exchanges. When you hear someone share their views or doubts, you don’t just take part in the discussion, you find the debators attractive in a way that others don’t.

  1. When you are looking for a partner, the most important thing for you is his intelligence 

You make an effort to communicate with others more deeply. In addition, you grow bored and uninterested if you don’t locate anything in their heads. Without a doubt, you wouldn’t associate an empty person with your life. It’s more significant to see brains in a person since that’s what makes you attracted to them than how much money they have in their bank account.

  1. You like to argue 

You are drawn to someone on a deep level if they make you disagree with them and drive you to dispute with them. You can find a partner in it who constantly broadens your horizons and isn’t afraid to utilize their knowledge for teasing or flirting. These people don’t strike you as being obstinate or arrogant. You respect their hunger and desire for intense debates.

  1. Physical attractiveness is good, but pleasant conversation is better 

A partner needs to be physically attracted to you to be together. You’ll lose your temper rapidly if it’s merely a gorgeous face. No matter how attractive a person is, if they can’t keep the conversation going and can’t teach you something new, they’re not worth your time. An intellectual discussion is essential for you.

  1. You are annoyed by idle chatter  

You start to feel physically sick when someone can’t hold an intelligent conversation. You find idle talk a nightmare, and you would much rather sit in solitude than discuss the weather. On the other hand, people who can hold a meaningful conversation, make suggestions for topics, and contribute to the discussion are admirable.

  1. Stupidity and rudeness can turn you off 

You can’t stand those who use aggression to make their points. Men and women who lack intelligence and can be readily provoked into violence are unacceptable. You find someone appealing who can respond to a challenging circumstance calmly and wisely. You respect people who can analyze their emotions and who don’t lose it when things go wrong.

  1. You would instead meet people in a bookstore than in a bar 

Bars are not places where you meet people. Screaming your name to someone you just met on the dance floor three minutes ago over loud music is not attractive. You’ll run across the acquaintance or meeting of your dreams in a bookstore or at a documentary. Because the ambiance there fosters meaningful conversation, you think that is where you would be able to meet a suitable spouse.

  1. You are a great listener 

You enjoy picking up knowledge from others. As a result, you are improving your listening skills. You are captivated when people you care about can talk about what they have learned or what interests them.
It is admirable how someone can sincerely impart their knowledge. You have no trouble staying motionless while you listen to then for a long time.

  1. Illiteracy annoys you 

If you strike up a discussion with someone and they text you a million times: “What’s up? What do you have to say?”, you find it annoying. When someone sends you a massive text without punctuation – it is a nightmare. You see it so repulsive that you lose all interest in continuing the dialogue.

  1. It is not only about reading books 

Most people assume that if you are drawn to someone’s brilliance, they must have encyclopedic knowledge. But there are other forms of intelligence as well.  Self-awareness and emotional intelligence can also be very seductive. You adore those in tune with their emotions and respect those who approach everything logically and use their minds to solve problems. You are attracted to intelligence like this.

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